The Jedi Knight
"Nothing is impossible to a willing mind." - Books of Han DynastyThe Knight, whether newly Knighted or long from training, has perhaps the widest and least defined patterns of relationships. Single Jedi working alone on diplomatic missions encounter a large variety of peoples and aliens and, uninhibited by the presence of a young Padawan learner, often serve the most dangerous and vital missions for the Republic. A Knight is expected to not only hold to the ideals of equality and open-mindedness that were instilled on them in their training, but to expand on relations with others - learn to be empathetic while not sympathetic, to listen and to find value in those around them.
A Jedi taking on his first apprentice is in a unique situation. He is neither a Master to other Jedi or to the Council, though he is in fact Master to his own apprentice. He is experienced but has not completed the training of a Padawan yet, which adds insight and experience through the years of their bond. Knights are not required to take a Padawan immediately upon joining the ranks of Knights, although they are highly encouraged by the Council to come to the Temple each year and appraise the initiates that are available to be taken on.
The taking on of one's first apprentice is a major commitment, and both Knight and Padawan are required to take vows of dedication to one another and to the training routine. Knights are cautioned not to take apprentices out of emotion, but rather to listen to the Force to guide them as to the proper individual to take on. Depending on the age a Padawan is taken at, a Knight may have his first Padawan for several years; thus, he must fulfill the role of "parent" as he, himself, is growing and learning as a Knight. It has also been said that the Master-Padawan bond is the strongest between the Knight and his first apprentice.
A Jedi Knight may form a variety of other bonds with those around him:
"Heart mates: The simplist of bondings, this is a bond between friends and/or lovers. Easy to make and to break, a heartbond is common between a Jedi and a non-Jedi.
Bond mates: A deeper bond between two people that melds their mind, heart, and soul in a bond that can be broken if needed. However, if broken sharply, such as a death that is unexpected, it can have detrimental effects on the surviving partner that requires a mental healing from outside help. If broken by both partners this bond will dissolve to a certain degree, but some small remnant will always remain. Also called a soulbond.
Life mates: The deepest bond that is possible it is also very rare. This bond merges mind, heart and soul of both partners in a fashion that is impossible to break. Any attempt to break a life bonding will result in the death of both partners. Likewise, if one partner in a lifebond dies the other does not survive by more than a few moments" (from a personal letter between Master Kwai and an unknown recipient; found in the Journals of the Grey).
There is some debate as to the relationship between a Knight and the Master who trained him. Some say that once the Padawan's braid is severed symbolically, so is the connection between Master and apprentice. However, such a severance, be it instant or gradual, would be incredibly harmful/damaging to both psyches and is simply not likely to occur. The general consensus seems to be that the Master-Padawan bond remains intact and will always, to some extent, function as it did while the Knight was an apprentice.
This having been assumed, it is therefore imperative to realize that a Jedi Knight will maintain feeling and emotion for his Master long after his own training has ended. Some Knights even seem to feel an increase in this bond after they take on their own apprentice.
The Knight's most functional relationship is that with the Jedi Council. Here, he finds strength and solace in the twelve members that are his guides and yet also his authority figures. Defying the Council brings disappointment, whereas having good working communications with them brings satisfaction, an opportunity for advancement, and most of all, lasting friendship. This relationship is not a conditional one, though headstrong Knights are prone to see more flaw with the Councilors than balanced Jedi are. For the most part, the relationship remains a strong one although as the Knight progresses, he spends less time with the Council and more time away on missions; therefore, contact with the Council becomes more about work and duty. However, public or private discussion with the Council may center on more personal issues, as the Masters still look after the Knights in a sometimes pseudo-parental capacity.
The Jedi Master
"Patience: the essential quality of man" - Kwai-Koo-Tsu
The Jedi Master's situation is a precarious one, and yet ironically the Master must be more certain of his path than any other. Each relationship he has carries with it some significant weight of responsibility. He must be able to carry this load not as a burden, but willingly... by choice. This is because a Master is the pinnacle of mastery over the Force - the epitome of the Jedi to society, his peers, his fellow Jedi, and the countless initiates who look up to him in admiration and for guidance.
Masters attain their rank upon the Knighting of their first Padawan. However, as previously discussed, that bond is not completely severed upon the ceremony. They remain in good standing with their Padawan(s) and continue to lend advice and assistance when needed. It is not all that uncommon for Knights to return to their Masters seeking guidance or even extra training. Their telepathic ability may wane, but more often than not remains intact for the duration of their lifespan - and beyond the natural life as well. It is not unheard of for a Master to appear to his apprentice through the Force, either audibly, visibly, or both, after his own death (A New Hope; The Empire Strikes Back; Return of the Jedi; Heir to the Empire, Zahn).
Masters who take on a second successive Padawan must exercise extreme caution in choosing the apprentice they will share their next bond with. The decision must be certain and not colored by past successes, expectations or failures - otherwise, training could be wrought with false hopes and prove disasterous for both Master and Padawan:
"[Qui-Gon] smiled. He had to admit, [Obi-Wan]...was meant for different things. But whether his path would intersect with [his own], he still didn't know. Until he did, he would not choose. The boy would have to be strong to dispel the shadow of the one who had come before. And [he] had cast a long, deep shadow" (Jedi Apprentice #1: The Rising Force, Jude Watson, 1999, page 168 ).
There are no set guidelines, however, governing the minute details of how a Master must train his student and what kind of relationship they must have. The Master-Padawan bond is a strong one, but it is also much stronger in a select few than it is for the majority. These are the pairs that more commonly share what resembles a life bond, as mentioned above.
Masters are also expected to have good relations with Knights of the Order and lend guidance and assistance to them whenever needed. They often forge strong friendships among the Knights, and sometimes romantic relationships. Masters who are not on the Council of twelve do not seek to be on it, but rather follow its guidance. The true Master meant to be a Councilor knows that if it is to be, the Force will allow it to be so.
Sometimes Masters are assigned to work together on missions of great importance, especially two apprentice-less Masters undertaking a high-risk operation. These Jedi may form a bond of their own, a mere shadow of the Master-Padawan communion of the psyche, that allows them to function more wholly - to move as a team and not as two individuals.
Finally, it should also be mentioned that it is of vital importance for Masters especially to see themselves as a part of a greater whole. This feeling of brotherhood with all members of the Order only serves to strengthen their empathy with others of their kind and also to increase their ability to relate to those around them:
"In the time of Qui-Gon, ten thousand Jedi Knights in service to the Republic carried on the struggle each day of their lives in a hundred thousand different world spread across a galaxy so vast it could barely be comprehended" (Episode I: The Phantom Menace, Terry Brooks, 1999, page 27)."
As can be extrapolated from the above quote, it is much easier for Masters to comprehend the incomprehensible when they can find the threads of the ties that bind all Jedi together. Unity, as it might be labeled, is a great strength, and also aids in the Master's dealings with those outside the Jedi Order. Masters should see all life forms as significant in their own right, and while they may or may not have less contact with the outside depending on their station, discipline, and current work detail, they do serve as an example of how a Jedi must act with those outside the Order to his peers, and especially to Knights and Padawans "below" him.
The Force
Although not mentioned in the original request of this thesis, this is perhaps the most important relationship to explain. A Jedi's relationship with the Force is key in his ability to relate to other Jedi and those outside the Order. The Force comes from all life in and ebb and flow, a vast ocean of feeling and depth. Yoda explained in The Empire Strikes Back, "...life creates it, makes it grow. It surrounds us... and binds us. Luminous beings are we... not this crude matter."
Indeed, the Jedi who is most centered is in balance with the Force, and has an equal relationship with its living and unifying potentials. The Force is non-judgmental; it is non-conditional; it is always there for the Jedi when they reach out to it. A Jedi whose psyche is open to the flow and guidance of the Force is more effective in teaching, in learning, and in battle. He is open to others' feelings and can gauge the proper time and circumstance of when to act and when to be patient.
The Force is indeed a topic too wide to be covered completely in even its own thesis, but it is imperative to understand the functional role it plays in Jedi's relationships with and understanding of others - and in truth, themselves. For as Qui-Gon said to Obi-Wan, "remember, Padawan, that most beings are essentially unknowable. There are mysteries at the heart that can surprise even those who think they know themselves" (Jedi Quest, Jude Watson, 2001, page 16). Being at one with the Force can only bring a Jedi closer to the mysteries of the heart and to those around them, and closer to personal enlightenment and enrichment, as well.
Afterward
There is no one thesis, book, or document that contains all one would desire to know about the Jedi and their Way. Indeed, this academic endeavor is itself a mere glimpse into Jedi relationships within and without the Jedi Order. While the points contained in the above may be valued in their succinct truthfulness, one must understand that the best way to gain the most valid insight is to experience for themselves the nature of the Jedi and how they train; for an active body and mind are the quintessence of the Jedi:
"Technical knowledge is not enough. One must transcend techniques so that the art becomes an artless art, growing out of the unconscious" (Joe Hyams, Zen in the Martial Arts, 1979).